love without chemistry

is it possible to be so completely in love with someone, mutually, without being compatible? I've struggled so much with that question over the past several months. As far as I can tell right now, the answer to that is no. No because when you completely love someone, and you both choose to give of yourself to the other person, you find the compatibility where the compatibility doesn't exist and you bring out the things that do work. The problem is, we don't all love like this, that game of give and take when a new relationship is forming gives us that room to breathe and love, but rarely do we automatically love so deeply.

if all of the bible hinges on our ability to love god and to love our neighbors as ourselves (because God knows just how much we love ourselves)...then love is hardly about compatibility and more about giving ourselves completely. For God so love the world, that He gave his only begotten son. And when a man loves a women, it should be as God loves the church, ready to lay down his life.